I recently read a post on ChooseBetterLife.com about a Christmas un-wish list. As much as it may sound like it was written by The Grinch, it was a liberating article about removing things (and non-things) from our lives in order to make room for new things and experiences.
It got me thinking about the lists of new year’s resolutions that I wrote growing up. I saved the lists until the next year so I could go through what I had and had not achieved. As a result (often mixed with frustration and disappointment), each year the list became shorter and, I hoped, more realistic.
This year, I decided not to write one. Instead, I want to remove a single bad habit from my life: I want to stop having guilt as the baseline of my actions and decision making.
Sounds very obvious, right? Who in their right mind would not pursue this goal? Well, in my case, it is a very sneaky bad habit. It is in almost everything I do. For example, I can feel guilty for taking time off and doing absolutely nothing, even when I need to rest. Or I can feel guilty about choosing experiences and having to say no to things in order to afford them.
Instead, I want to approach decisions and actions more carefully. Not say yes or no out of guilt, but out of conviction. And own the outcomes of those decisions, instead of wallowing in what I imagine others believe I should have done.
I wonder, by removing guilt as one of the key factors to my decision-making, how much will I be able to accomplish that I thought would be impossible before?